Changing the character of 3-year-old 700km away.

YY is three; he is the first child of the family and also the first grandson of the grandparents. Naturally all attention and love was on him since birth.

His mother gave birth to his brother when he was 1-year-old. All the adults were happily going round the newborn, howevver YY would not allow his grandma and father to cuddle his brother. The moment he saw his grandma cuddling his brother, he would cry aloud. Slowly, he started to demand grandma to hold him for afternoon nap and if grandma did not pick him up when he woke up, he would cry incessantly.

The moment he saw his father, he would want his father to carry him, otherwise he would cry, sometimes for hours. The family has no choice but to allow the grannies to take care of him during the day. One year later, his younger brother was inflicted with meningitis (see: Recovery from meningitis) and was hospitalized for 3 weeks. During then, the family members took turn to take care of the brother. YY stopped talking and refused to go home with the parents at night and he never asked about his brother’s where about. He also did not response to what the parents told him about his brother. After the brother was discharged, YY became more attached to his grandma. He would not allow his grandma to hold his brother, even when his brother was crying.

On July 11, 2016, we contacted Pei See (through video Skype) for the condition of the younger brother and we invited Pei See to take a look at YY and run the i-Therapy for him.

One week after i-Therapy was started, we could clearly acknowledge the change of YY, we were surprised that he would get out of his bed on his own after the afternoon nap.

By now (September 1, 2016), i-Therapy has gone on for 2 months, YY is clearly a much happier boy. He smiles frequently and would ask for his brother when his brother went to the hospital for follow-up treatment. He was happy to stay with his aunties at home when his grandma went to hospital to have a look at this brother. He would tell his aunties that he missed his brother.

When the brother was back, he would play with his brother. In fact he now plays with his brother every day after school. His grandma and father can also join in to play with his brother. He has also started to address his aunties; previously he would only address his grandma and father. Many thanks to Pei See.

by FT (auntie of YY in Penang) 1 September 2016

信息治疗:改变一个700公里外的3岁孩子

YY今年三岁,是他妈妈的第一个孩子也是外婆家的第一个孙。从出生开始,他就集万千宠爱于一身。在他一岁的时候,妈妈生了弟弟。大人们都围着弟弟转但是圆翼不准外婆和爸爸抱弟弟。外婆一抱弟弟,哥哥就哭闹。

不知从几时开始,每天的午觉,哥哥一定要外婆抱他去睡。午睡起来后,也一定要外婆抱他起来,不然他就哭闹不休。

一见到爸爸,哥哥总是要爸爸抱他。如果爸爸不抱他,他就一直哭,有时可以哭上几个小时。
在此情况下,弟弟只好由外公和妈妈照顾。大家就这样过了一年直到弟弟得了脑膜炎,进了医院住了3个星期。这3个星期,大人们都轮流去医院照顾弟弟。哥哥变的不说话也不要和爸爸妈妈回家过夜。哥哥也从来不问弟弟去了哪儿。爸爸妈妈告诉他弟弟的情况,哥哥也没有反应。
弟弟出院后,哥哥变的更粘外婆。弟弟哭,哥哥也不给外婆去抱弟弟。
11/7 因为弟弟的关系,我们联络到佩诗帮弟弟医病。同一时间,我们请佩诗检测哥哥也开始了哥哥的I-Therapy.

I-therapy一星期后,我们明显看到哥哥的改变。我们很意外的看到他午睡后自己起床。
到现在,I-Therapy已经2个月了,哥哥明显的开心多了。他的笑容多了。弟弟入院接受治疗,哥哥也会向大人们询问弟弟的去向。外婆去医院,哥哥也愿意和小阿姨在家玩还会说想弟弟。

弟弟回家后,哥哥也愿意和弟弟玩在一起。每天放学后都会和弟弟玩。外婆和爸爸也可以和哥哥弟弟一起玩。哥哥也会叫阿姨了,之前他除了外婆和爸爸,谁都不叫。真的谢谢佩诗的帮忙。

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